Your Happy Oil Life: Month One

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an easy oily routine for the little ones

:: Set the diffuser up in their bedroom and run 2 drops lavender, 2 drops Easy Air for the 1hour setting while you get the babes ready for bed

:: Add 4 drops of Lavender to ½ cup of milk (any kind) and add into their bedtime bath

:: Add 1 drop of lavender to 1 tsp of carrier oil (fractionated coconut oil or olive oil out of your cupboard) and massage into their little feet to help calm their nervous system and promote a more restful sleep

:: Add 1 drop of frankincense to 1 tsp of carrier oil and massage down their spine to help their busy minds let go of the day and ease into sweet dreams

:: Add 1 drop of DigestZen to 1 tsp of carrier oil and massage clockwise into their little bellies to ease any tummy upsets after dinner

an easy oily routine for you

:: Move the diffuser out into the space you will be unwinding in/sleeping in and set to run for 2-4 hours with the “Let The Day Go” blend (2 Frankincense, 3 Lemon, 3 Lavender)

:: Boil the kettle and make yourself a soothing cup of herbal tea. Add 1 tsp coconut oil and 1 drop of Lavender for a pacifying nightcap

:: Add 1 drop of Easy Air to the corner of your shower and inhale with the steam to open airways and promote clearer breathing before bed

:: Add 1 drop of Frankincense to your evening serum or moisturiser to pamper those mama cheeks (anti-aging, beautifying, smoothing and scar reducing)

:: Hop into bed and get an unscented lotion, butter or oil (like coconut oil) and give yourself a nice foot massage with 1 drop of Lavender per foot. Pop on some soft cotton socks and enjoy some shut eye, you’ve earned it, love.


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Week 1 is the perfect time to experiment with your oils and equip yourself with any additional things you’ll need for your high vibe life.

There are a few basic DIY supplies many people invest in to get the most out of their oils.

Here’s what you’ll need and where to get it.

Roller bottles

Make up pre-diluted versions of your oils, ready to roll on, stash in your handbag or making roll on perfume replacements

Buy from: 


Carrier Oil

doTERRA make a fabulous carrier oil called Fractionated Coconut Oil (FCO). You’ll use this to dilute your essential oils to reduce risk of skin irritation, to top up your roller bottles, for cleansing and moisturising your skin and in some self care recipes.

Some great alternatives to FCO are simple olive oil, jojoba oil, sesame oil, almond oil, avocado oil, pumpkin seed oil, apricot kernel oil or macadamia oil.

Buy from: or your local health food store or supermarket

Spray bottles

Replace toxic bench sprays, bathroom & glass cleaners and more with simple DIY versions.


Castile Soap

You’ll use this for everything from cleaning your home to making DIY bubble bath for your babes.  Buy the big bottle (more cost effective).

buy from: Your local health food store


White vinegar + Bicarb/Baking Soda + Coarse salt

Such a versatile and cheap ingredient that’s indispensable for green cleaning around your home.

Buy from: Any supermarket


Oils Resource: Modern Essentials App

You’ll use this app daily as your go-to oils bible for looking up what to use, when to use it, how to use it and any safety information.

Think of this like your portable oils directory so you’ll know exactly what to reach for every time.

Buy from:  The App Store


The Essential Life Book

A beautiful, illustrated and detailed oils resource that will be a go-to for using your oils, recipes, ideas and a directory for which oil to use for which situation.

Buy from:



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Month 1 is all about getting comfy with your oils and getting used to reaching for them first when life happens.

We’ll look at easy swaps for first aid and everyday natural health support, easy morning and evening routines you can incorporate for the whole family and the best ways to use your oils on the run, best when you’ve got them on you - you can use them!

Suggested Enrollment Order:

Home Essentials Kit (235pv) $330


Home First Aid Kit Overhaul

* Sourced from The Modern Essentials App


Lavender + Tea Tree

Apply directly to bites. Dilute with carrier oil to minimise skin sensitivity.




Dilute as recommended and massage into area twice per day



Lemon + Peppermint + DigestZen

Dilute as recommended and rub clockwise into belly and onto soles of feet.

Adults add 1 drop to drinking water and sip slowly.



Ice Blue

Dilute as recommended and massage directly into area



Lavender, Tea Tree + Frankincense

Dilute as recommended and apply 1-2 drops on location




Dilute as recommended and rub clockwise into belly and onto soles of feet.

Adults add 1 drop to drinking water and sip slowly.



Lavender, Tea Tree + Frankincense

Dilute as recommended and apply 1-2 drops on location


Supporting head tension

Peppermint + Frankincense

Dilute as recommended and apply to temples, across forehead and into neck. Place 1 drop on thumb and press into roof of the mouth where hard and soft palate meet



Ice Blue

Dilute as recommended and massage into area directly


Monthly cramping

Ice Blue + Lavender

Dilute as recommended and massage into lower back and belly



Oregano + Tea Tree

Dilute as recommended and apply directly to area.

Adults can also take 1 drop Oregano in a veggie capsule diluted with Olive Oil.




Apply directly to bites. Dilute with carrier oil to minimise skin sensitivity.


Simple Oily Family Morning Routine

:: Pop 1 drop of lemon essential oil in a tall glass of water and hydrate that body (adults only, children should not ingest oils)

:: Set up your diffuser in the main space and set to run for 2-4 hours with the “Morning Mood” blend (3 Lemon, 3 Peppermint, 2 Easy Air)

:: Fill your sink and soak (20 mins) any unwashed fruit or veggies for the day ahead with 5 drops of lemon oil to remove waxes and surface contaminants.

:: Add 1 drop of Peppermint or DigestZen to your water bottle for the day to aid healthy digestion and freshen your breath (adults only).

:: Dilute 1 drop On Guard in 1 tbsp carrier oil and massage into your little one’s feet before they head out the door to daycare, creche or school to fortify their immune system.

:: Once per week soak the family’s toothbrushes in a glass of water with 10 drops Tea Tree for the day. Rinse out well before using at night.


Simple Oily Family Evening Routine

:: Pop a drop of lemon essential oil or On Guard in smelly shoes after they come off little or big feet

:: Set up the diffuser and set to run for 2-4 hours with the “During Dinner Vibes” blend (3 DigestZen, 3 Lavender)

:: Massage 1 drop of Frankincense into the back of your neck to release tension and let go of the day

:: After dinner, add 2 drops of lemon to your dishwashing powder for extra sparkle (there’s a great DIY recipe later in this guide to make in Month 2)

:: Wipe down benches with a clean damp cloth and 2 drops lemon, Tea Tree or On Guard (or DIY surface spray you’ll make in Month 2)


Here’s a few ideas for taking your oils everywhere with you:

:: Grab a doTERRA keychain from your personalised store. It comes with 8 sample vials you can fill with oil from your main bottles. You’ll never be stuck without your oils, as they will be right there on your keys!

:: Get some rollerbottles and make diluted versions of each oil and blend to carry with you in your bag or purse. doTERRA also make pre-diluted roller bottles that come in a kit called The Touch Kit which takes all the work out of this for you. Also available from your personalised store.

:: Toss a diluted lavender rollerbottle in your child’s school bag for any bites, cuts or grazes so they have something to reach for.


What comes next? 

I hope you have the best first month EVER as you dive into your new oils. Aren't they the best?!

And if you're yet to start your journey yet (and are just reading this for inspo), I invite you to: jump over here and simply start using these beautiful oils or email me at hi (at) so we can talk more about what oils might suit your needs best. 

Alice xo

Why I think it's an honour to sell + share doTERRA Essential Oils

Over the last few years as I've shared oils and grown a business of over 3000 customers, all using and loving doTERRA essential oils. The overwhelming feedback from the women I've helped to begin their oils journey over that time is this: they began using oils just as a way to clean up the toxins in their homes and every day lives (through cleaning, skin care, smelly wall plugins, air fresheners, hand sanitizers, their first aid kit go to's etc). But after a while, what they REALLY discovered when they integrated the oils into their physical and emotional wellness was this more of this: Hope. Peace. Empowerment. Joy.

It lights me up to know that these beautiful bottles of oil can help people access powerful shifts in their bodies and minds so effectively (without a huge cost or negative side-effects). But let me be SUPER clear on this.....not all essential oils are created equally. And not all essential oil companies respect the earth, sustainability practices, sourcing oils from where they naturally grow + thrive (their indigenous home). The results you have from essential oils will vary significantly based on these practices. Then there's what's behind the bottle too that you (if you're anything like me and care about conscious business practice) will care about too.

So. With all that's why I (and 5 million other peeps) choose only doTERRA Essential Oils. 

doTERRA is the largest essential oil + wellness company in the world.

The essential oil quality, sourcing + culture that has been created through the wellness advocates is something you will not find anywhere else!

#1) The Co-Impact sourcing model: doTERRA sources globally and not only that - they work WITH the farmers there to create a better economy.  This doesn't matter to everyone - but it did for me

#2) Their commitment to purity through the CPTG stamp: There is no governing body that enforces corporations like Walmart, Best Buy or NOW brand to be honest about what they're putting in their bottles. It's important that you research a company and understand what they stand for...and then if you try the oil and it aligns with what that company is saying - you have a great company.

When I chose doTERRA it was an intuitive decision at first - I was drawn to the heart of their mission. I didn’t know anyone in Australia that was with doTERRA so I heavily researched the company. Aligning myself with the very best people and brands is something I am committed to. If you’re having a difficult time seeing the truth about which essential oil company you should join - feel free to message me for my research notes.




what are essential oils?

Essential oils are natural aromatic compounds found in bark, seeds, stems, roots, flowers and other parts of plants. They are 50-70% more powerful than herbs and they are highly concentrated. They are a safe, affordable and effective alternative to many synthetic products / recipes. 


why essential oils?

There's a lot of hype about essential oils but there's a good reason for it. They're potent and pure and have many powerful health agents. There's also a multitude of uses for essential oils - you can support immune systems,  sleep, calm anxiety and manage moods/stress and increase energy levels. All naturally and without using synthetic chemicals.  

Surviving Your Partner's Network Marketing Business: A Skeptical Husband's Perspective

Written by my husband, Tristan. Who penned this post for you to navigate the early years as your partner grows their network marketing business -- and as a really really long way of saying to me "babe, you were right" ;-) . 

Take it away, my love...


Network Marketing for Uninitiated Partners

Oh, so you have just realised that you are partnered to an aspiring network marketing guru…?

I am here to help... I’m a psychologist :-). 

Now, I was brought up in a simple way with regards to earning money in the world. You study hard, you get a good job, you get paid… The end.

My wife however learnt something else along the way. She learnt that you can earn money through your own means and entrepreneurial talents. Who would’ve thought?! #duh


In ours, as in many cases, network marketing began as something small. 2 and a half years later and my wife’s business now supports a flexible lifestyle for all of us independent of location and financial stress and I am so grateful for this.  

In the beginning, I was in doubt/ denial that the whole process would last to be honest. Psychiatrist Kubler Ross developed a now well-known theory of grief that I think is relevant here (I’m not trying to draw a comparison between my wife joining a network marketing company and grief but the stages seemed relevant nonetheless). Kubler Ross theorised the 5 stages of grief as Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression & Acceptance and I will refer to them here to describe the process I have experienced in the hope it may be helpful to you. We learn from ours and others mistakes after all, so why make a mistake that I someone already has?


In my case I think it was more Doubt than Denial as such. I was dubious (another great d word) regarding what this product was and the company. I’m a scientist at heart- a behavioural scientist and the researching grain was bludgeoned into me through university. It is worth pointing out that I am also a sceptic…. Of most things new and those I don’t understand…

So, my approach to my wife’s new role was to research the hell out of the company doTERRA and the product it was selling. I read the blogs for and against realising these eventually cancel each other out. Then I went to the remuneration scheme and researched this. The remuneration setup, like all network marketing companies’, is complex. I did the pragmatic maths to determine how a company could pay what they were purportedly going to pay to my wife for developing the seemingly simple little business that she was… I tried really, really hard to pick it apart. I made more than the occasional attempt to convince her I had found a flaw in their scheme… (She explained to me my errors). Safe to say that the fact It’s taken me 3 years to write this shows how much I dislike being wrong.  

So, then I went to the research itself on the product. I researched the hell out of scientific published databases looking for non-biased randomised control trials (the pinnacle of research methodology FYI) and found a relative amount of research that supported the products. Denial and doubt nestled in my mind for a little longer until eventually the scientific method finally told me to accept that there was nothing evil with either the company or the product.

Whilst you are in this stage, research all you like if you need reassurance. Come from a place of care for your partner and your financial security also but trust in her capacity to do the research herself. If she needs your help, she’ll ask.


Denial and bargaining seemed to cohabitate for a while in my head with my wife starting her new journey with doTERRA. I was influenced by articles e-bashing (is that a thing?) network marketing and had images of pyramid schemes discrediting our lives and the constant threat of losing friends and reputation. I talked / attempted to cajole my wife into reading what I had read and the issues with network marketing. Once again, she corrected my thinking and validated where some of these articles were accurate in relation to some other companies. In hindsight, this probably wasn’t bargaining at all but instead a one-sided rhetoric of unfounded beliefs designed to challenge my wife’s unbridled optimism.

This all came from a place of fear. Deep down, when we are completely honest with ourselves, fear is where the majority of our adverse reactions to things evolve from. Fear of loss, fear of embarrassment, fear of rejection, fear of abandonment, etc. The list of psychological presentations that I usually see people for goes on.

Recognise your fears. With awareness comes choice and in this case, the choice is whether to act with mindful presence or to instead react (the latter is generally not helpful in most relationships BTW). Acting on your fears may entail challenging them in your own head (what is the real evidence for my fear based beliefs?) or it may simply be a case of noticing the fear and watching it pass as you choose to instead embody trust in your partner’s decision as you trust her.


Relationships, like network marketing businesses, and life in general is not all smooth sailing. There are expected and unexpected ups and downs. Now, I generally don’t get particularly angry and when I do, I certainly don’t express it in what may be considered the typical male way. My automatic response to anger is, well, it’s more akin to sulking in some form or another until the anger has passed. I could provide an acute insight into why this is psychologically speaking but I will save this from here. This pattern works for me to some extent though my wife may not agree it works for her. Anyways…

As my wife’s foray into network marketing continued and her business grew exponentially, this started taking up a significant amount of our time. So, my brain in its typical immature form, decided to pounce on the business as the root of all evil in our relationship and catastrophized that our marriage was going to be doomed should she continue etc etc etc.. I became resentful (angry) towards the perceived neglect and yes, you guessed it, I sulked…

Most relationship counsellors will agree that one of the primary predictors of happiness, satisfaction and longevity in a relationship is a couples’ ability to commit to and dedicate time to each other. Together. This can be in any form. If you are in the early stages of your wife’s developing new career, believe me, it is going to get busier for a while if it is going to be a success (I use this word carefully as success is, and ought to be, defined subjectively). Don’t blame the business. Manage the time you have together better. We all have the same number of minutes in a day – the Dalai Lama, Elon Musk, … Look what they achieve. Take responsibility for your time. Much is possible to fit in your day if you make the commitment.


Thankfully, my experience of depressed emotions related to my wife’s business to date have been limited to the misrepresented thoughts of FOMO*. I can appreciate how partners’ could become easily drawn in to the ups and downs (particularly the downs) of a network marketing business and feel every class ‘failure’ or networked rejection or team member’s lack of motivation as something they need to fix. Men have a habit of wanting to ‘fix’ when things don’t seem right (it’s an evolutionary thing). Sometimes, things can just be left alone though, and will right themselves when they are aligned to. My advice would be to ride these waves with your partner. As with any business, there will always be growth and moderating and times where it may feel like collapse is imminent. Relax, breathe, and look forwards.

At difficult times, support your partner however you can. This doesn’t mean agreeing with everything that she does (my wife may argue this point) but it does mean at least shutting your mouth when you otherwise might not. It is her business, not yours. Her’s to build, her’s to fall if this is what is to be. And falling does not equal failure. I spoke before of success being a subjective thing. Likewise, so is failure. There are so many stories of people moving from one network marketing business to another until finally landing on one that resonates with them and then thriving within it. This business might just be one of these for your partner. There are learnings to be had in each decision that we make. Let her experience these learnings and take them to her next decision.

I used to run a men’s group quite a few years back for substance abusers and at the beginning of each group we read out a list of group rules. The one that I will never forget is “No advice giving.”. Now, it might seem unusual that in a men’s support group there would be no advice giving but the truth of it is that we know no better than anyone else in relation to their specific unique circumstances. Keep your advice to yourself unless it is requested. Even then, she probably knows better anyhow.  


At some point in the second year of my wife’s business, I came to accept and realise and respect her ability and capacity within this industry. (Yes, you read right, second year).

I have been deluded in thinking at various times that by being a negative-Nancy my wife would thrive as it would give her the competitive spirit to prove me wrong. Perhaps there’s a part of me that still believes this. I wonder though how far she would have come if I had been 100% on board from the beginning? How much less resistance she would have had to push through and have been able to focus more on her goals? I won’t know the answer to this question though I believe that the majority of my responses to the above weren’t particularly helpful to the process.

The majority of people who enter into a network marketing business do not emerge from the other side with multimillion dollar businesses. This is the truth. But not everybody seeks to as well. There is so much to be gained personally and psychologically from endeavouring to begin a new business, and with accurate and supportive guidance and leadership from your upline, network marketing can be an amazing and safe opportunity for people to do this.


As a partner to the next potential doTERRA or other network marketing company guru of the world; remember your place, remember to come from a place of trusting support and not fear, remember to make time for your relationship, and lastly (with full awareness to the irony here) no advice giving.


Tristan Abba – The Happy Collective Psychologist & CFO

*‘Fear of Missing Out’ for those of you above 16 or have managed to successfully avoid the abbreviated vernacular of today’s world.


Setting Up Your Diffuser + Diffuser Blends for the Top 10 Oils

How To Set Up Your Diffuser. The Basics. 

:: Use clean, room-temperature tap or distilled water. Fill to the water level indicator line.

:: Add 4-8 drops of essential oil. You can add more oil for a stronger scent, or less for in a child’s bedroom. Experiment with the amount of oil you use and find what works best for you. 

:: Avoid placing your diffuser in direct sunlight or near a fan.



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:: Make sure to unplug your diffuser prior to cleaning.

:: When removing excess water from the water tank, pour from the rear of the diffuser to avoid spilling on the operating buttons.

:: Clean the inside of the water tank and the outside of the diffuser with a small amount of neutral detergent cotton cloth or a small foam brush. Avoid using any harsh cleaners on your diffuser.

:: Rinse and dry.

:: Use a Q-tip dipped in rubbing alcohol or white vinegar to wipe the ultrasonic mist chip found inside the water tank.

Simple Diffuser Blends To Get Started

Let the day go:

2 Frankincense, 3 Lavender, 2 Lemon


Morning mood:

3 Lemon, 3 Peppermint, 2 Easy Air

During dinner vibes:

3 DigestZen, 3 Lavender


Fresh house feels:

3 Lemon, 3 On Guard

The magic trio:

2 Lemon, 2 Lavender, 2 Peppermint

Anxiety tamer:

3 Lavender, 3 Lemon